When trying to figure out the biggest stresses in my life I quickly realized I was over scheduled, over tired AND all of it was self-inflicted.
I Keila McGahuey am a self-proclaimed PEOPLE PLEASER. I never want people to be unhappy and have always cared what people thought or said about me. In trying to keep up with making sure that everyone in my life whether it be my husband, kids, people at work or friends were content, I quickly realized I was not content. My life was chaos because I couldn’t say no to an invite. Committing to every social event, work meeting, interview, class, kids party, and classroom event. That along with the daily grind of 2 kids(now 3), a full-time job(that I do in 3 days ) and managing a household, I was toast!
I was in desperate need for some boundaries in my life. I read a quote by John Maxwell that resonated with me. 
It was time to take some control of my life both professionally and personally. I was being walked all over by my clients and friends, to be honest. Not intentionally, I don’t think. But definitely the result of never saying no to them and their requests or favors. I have had a good 6 months of practicing saying no and setting boundaries and I feel like a new woman!
Take control of your time! Say NO! It doesn’t have to be hard.
SET YOUR BOUNDARIES-By setting boundaries you can say no without guilt because you have a guide line of sorts that you are following. (Examples: I will not work more than 50 hours in a week, no girls nights on week nights, etc.) boundaries are a part of having a healthy balance and are easier to nail down when you are not on the spot.
QUIT MAKING EXCUSES AND OVER EXPLAINING- All you are saying in your long drawn out explanation is “I am a big fat liar, and I am not buying my own crap, but you should.” Say “No I can’t” or just “No Thanks” and move on.
QUIT WAITING TO RESPOND- Not responding to an invite or avoiding a request is not an option. Say “no thanks” upon receiving so they can figure out a different plan or invite someone else.
QUIT BEING WORRIED THAT THEY WILL BE MAD- Not everyone will understand or be on board with your saying No. Not your problem. You have boundaries in place for a reason. They need to respect them.
Keila nicole 
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