Last May I became a mom of 3. My world was rocked in more ways than I could have imagined. We were officially out numbered and life would never be the same. After a month or 2 of zero sleep, being back to work full time and moving into our new family home, I was exhausted. I had a few situations arise in my life that were sucking the energy out of me, stunting any forward movement and destroying my positive outlook on anything. I had a revelation that ONLY I could control MY actions and reactions. It was time to rid my daily routine of the energy vamps and negative nancys that entered my world.
Just a few actions that can keep the bad juju at bay:
- Love what you do – I have become VERY picky about who we hire in our businesses. One persons negativity can severely poison the well. It is important to me to surround myself with positive people at work because it is my home away from home. I know that this is not realistic for some, as you are not the person doing the hiring but steer clear of drama in your work place and you will have a much more fulfilling career. Love what you do and where you do it. If the morale of the company is really low, your work environment can have a very negative impact on you and your overall outlook. If this is the case, find a company that is known for having a positive environment. There may even be an opportunity in another department within your company too.
2. Unfollow– If social media has you frustrated and up in arms, especially right now with the election next week, just hit that little button at the top and unfollow away! There are so many unnecessary comments and people who literally have NOTHING else to do but complain on their social media sites. I have over 1000 friends and maybe follow 50. Just the positive peeps that have something real and unbiased to contribute to my day. Unfollowing is an easy and kind way of not just deleting people. We don’t have to agree on everything but we don’t have to burn a fb bridge either. Social media is the way of the world. So be nice! Unfollow! It is a glorious feature!
3. Find Positive People- You are who you associate with. If you fill your time with the positive people you will have no room for those who are negative.
4. Be Thankful- Having an attitude of gratitude is being thankful for the blessings in your life. When we are grateful for any good thing in our life, we are being positive and pushing the negativity out. The more thankful you are for the good things in your life the more good things will come your way.
5. Don’t Worry About What People Will Say – Have you ever found yourself wanting to accomplish a certain goal but hold off doing it because you are scared others could think bad about you? Maybe you want write a blog or you want to date a certain person. But you find yourself paralyzed because you think, “What would my mom/cousin/best friend, think?” Just remember, it’s YOUR life, not theirs! You must keep in mind that it’s impossible to please everyone and that YOUR happiness is what matters. So if you want to write that blog, go for it! Don’t let the naysayers hold you back.
6. Stop That Complaining – Everyone complains every now and then about work, about friends, family, or life in general. It’s only human. But complaining puts us in a place to continue making excuses and being negative. The next time you begin complaining stop immediately. Do something to fix your problems, and be grateful for what you have in your life. You’re more fortunate than you think.
7. Minimize Toxic Relationships. Toxic relationships often go hand-in-hand with negativity. If a person makes you feel bad about yourself, how you are, or what you do, then that person is toxic. These people make others feel badly in order to feel better about themselves. Unfortunately, sometimes these individuals can be family, making it difficult to completely remove them from your life. In that case, unfollow them, minimize the time you spend with them, and spend your energy on the healthier, happier relationships.
8. Love Where You Live- Our neighborhood and home can have a big impact on our outlook. If you aren’t happy with your community/neighborhood or neighbors, it may be time to move.
9. Set Boundaries and say NO.- Set boundaries with the yourself and the people in your life. If you don’t want to do something then just say Nope.
10. Think Positively- There is a lot of truth to being the master of your own destiny. We have heard the saying, “positive thoughts beget positive results.” The more negatively we think, the more negative things will happen to us. However, the more positive we are, the more positive things will come to us.
Keila nicole 
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